MIDDLE AGEish
Authentically and unapologetically keeping it real, discussing all things Middle Age (ish), when metabolism slows and confidence grows. Middle Age(ish): A time of transition from dreaming of who we will grow up to be and looking at the legacy we will leave behind. Listen to this podcast and join the hosts of Middle Age(ish) as they sit around with a glass of wine to discuss all things related to middle age with some amazing guests!
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Sofa Talk: Celebrating 25 Episodes of Authenticity and Human Connection
As we settle into our sofa talk, we're whisked away to Ireland, basking in Lisa's recount of her recent trip back home and her amazing experience shooting a 20th-anniversary special for Celtic Woman. Lisa gives us the inside, behind-the-scenes scoop of her performance, from the high heels to the on-stage jitters!
We shift gears and celebrate this, our 25th episode, and delve deeper into the life lessons we've learned. We discuss the wisdom and insight we have gained from our past guests, underlining the vital need for authenticity, patience, and genuine human connection. We share our introspections on acknowledging our pains, the solace in real connections, and the indispensable role of reaching out for support during difficult times. As we move forward on our journey of Middle Ageish self-awareness and personal growth, we eagerly look to next week's guest, Michelle Rowell, anticipating the light she will shed on our path.
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Welcome to the Middle-Age-ish podcast, authentically and unapologetically, keeping it real, discussing all things middle-age-ish, a time when metabolism slows and confidence grows. Join fashion and fitness entrepreneur Ashley Badosky, former Celtic woman and founder of the Lisa Kelly Voice Academy, lisa Kelly, licensed psychologist and mental health expert, dr Pam Wright, and highly sought-after cosmetic injector and board-certified nurse practitioner, trisha Kennedy-Roman. Join your host on the journey of Middle-Age-ish.
Speaker 2:Hello everyone and welcome back to another episode of Middle-Age-ish podcast. My name is Trisha Kennedy-Roman and I'm joined here today with my co-host, ashley Badosky, lisa Kelly and Dr Pam Wright, and you are joining us today for our sofa talk, so welcome, hello.
Speaker 5:Yes, we're back, welcome back.
Speaker 4:Welcome back to you.
Speaker 5:Oh, I know yes my accent will be so much thicker this week.
Speaker 3:We love it.
Speaker 4:We just got to listen to you talk the rest of the night.
Speaker 3:Exactly, this is just a sofa talk with.
Speaker 5:Lisa, I got to go home, so that was so nice. It was so nice to get home and the weather was good, which is crazy.
Speaker 4:Oh, that's amazing yeah.
Speaker 5:It's so rare that the weather is good in Ireland, but it was gorgeous and I got to come home.
Speaker 3:Okay, so what's gorgeous in Ireland? Like what's the temp?
Speaker 5:like oh, maybe 20. So what's that? In far and wide, yeah, we're like 70s, 70s oh okay, yeah, high 70s, right, I think that. I think that equates. I can never do the math and yeah it's, but we don't have air conditioning, so haha, so when it gets into, the middle to late 70s, yeah, and our houses are all stone and concrete. So, like gosh, so you never like it is so hot, I just got actually to fight with that.
Speaker 2:She can't ever live in Ireland. Now You're like oh, no AC.
Speaker 5:No, between Amazon and air conditioning, I don't think I could go home. Yes, like we have Amazon in Ireland, but it is nothing like Amazon here Did you see a leprechaun? I did not see a leprechaun on this.
Speaker 3:Now well, how ever Did you see Tinkerbell, or like a little fairy? I didn't see no fairies.
Speaker 5:However, notre Dame were playing, so there was plenty of American yes. Running around the city Running around. Well, I actually didn't get to go out much because I was filming a special for Celtic woman, so I didn't get to go out and party too much. I was partying in a dressing room.
Speaker 2:So your special comes out in Christmas time.
Speaker 5:December, yes, the December. Oh my gosh, we're so excited. I know it's the 20th anniversary.
Speaker 3:That's like crazy, because you're, I mean again.
Speaker 5:We talk about this all the time.
Speaker 3:I mean but you're 25. So how does that even work? This is true. Yes, I was a five year old.
Speaker 5:Yeah, Well, that was the crazy thing, you know, like the girls, the new girls that they've brought in, so it was more like, you know, a handoff, and it was four of the original five girls who got to do this show, and so it was. It was just really surreal because it doesn't feel like 20 years ago, like I mean, I can't even imagine.
Speaker 5:It's so weird. And the girls, the girls, the new girls, and it's ironed, like as young as we were, I don't think I know they couldn't have been. No, no, they're not as young, because Chloe was like only 14 when we did the first Celtic woman, and I think I was like 27 or something, and so it was just. It was yeah, it was just so surreal, but it was like no time passed. I was standing side stage getting ready to go on for you raise me up with Merade and he was our fiddle player, and it was just like we were standing. It was like being back there 15 years ago.
Speaker 5:Yeah, it just nothing Like you time traveled back. Yeah, I was just older, it was harder to walk and heels and I was more nervous than usual.
Speaker 4:I was gonna say do you get anxious, Like if it's been that long since you've done something. There's so much pressure because this is a big deal. So much pressure.
Speaker 5:So I will say it's a little easier than doing like a live show in a theater, because even though it's a live show, it's been filmed, so if something goes horribly wrong, you can start over. You can start all over, but we filmed over two nights and on the first night we have the most patient director in the world. He's been around us for years and I had my lovely dress on and I bought lovely high heels for the show so stunning.
Speaker 1:I was loving myself.
Speaker 5:And he was like, you know, okay, he came to me with a note after the first night when he was supposed to come down the step, and I was like, yeah, I know, but I was so nervous my legs actually wouldn't move. Oh my God, I want you to move, but now it's fabulous it was fun, so you did have an audience, though we did. We had an audience both nights. Yeah, we had really a closed audience on Thursday.
Speaker 3:So all your family, and friends came in, so that was nice as well, because that kind of gives you a bit of a warm up.
Speaker 5:And then on the Friday night it was everybody from everybody, who'd won tickets, so they didn't sell tickets for this show, they like gave them the competition. Yeah, so it was all the fans and some of them who've like been around for 20 years. And the audience. No, it wasn't that big because you had to leave room for cameras. So I think if there was a ties in there, that might have been so pretty, but it was pretty intimate. It's listen. There's no real difference between like 200 people.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it really isn't.
Speaker 5:And the lights around so you don't see people that much in the audience anyway, but um yeah no, it was fabulous, it was, it was so nice, it was great to have the. As I was saying to you earlier, before we started recording, it was just so nice to close that chapter as well. I'd actually have a close and no, I'm done.
Speaker 2:I don't think it's closed Like a 25th anniversary.
Speaker 4:No 30th anniversary, 40th anniversary, 50th anniversary.
Speaker 5:Did you get the golden jubilee? Yes, yes, no, no, it's definitely Golden girls. Yeah, it's not as much. That's going to be us in like oh my.
Speaker 4:God, that is going to be us Any years.
Speaker 3:It's a girls podcast, exactly.
Speaker 5:It felt more like the SNLs that they did an SNL skate on Celtic Woman about a year and a half ago. That's what it felt like Really, yes, they did, I woke up. It's so funny, I woke up one morning.
Speaker 1:Oh my gosh we're going to see that it's ridiculous.
Speaker 4:Same.
Speaker 5:I woke up. You know the way you wake up. Sometimes I'm obviously, you know, five hours behind everybody in Ireland. So if I wake up to load the messages on my phone, I'm like oh my God, what's happened?
Speaker 5:Something's happened. You know I'm always in a panic, but I woke up to like text after text after text. I'm like, oh my God, what's going on. I went to Facebook and I'd like 100 notifications on my Facebook and I click on oh my God, this SNL skit of four girls in their dresses doing Celtic Woman. I was like, oh my gosh. It was the first when I watched it. First I was highly offended and then I went okay, your Irish, you don't get offended.
Speaker 3:They're very ridiculous.
Speaker 5:It's just now, I mean so, which is always a little bit of a waste.
Speaker 4:Are you laughing at yourself or with yourself?
Speaker 5:Yes, so when I went back and watched it the second time, I was like this is actually let me see if I'll send it to you or we can put it.
Speaker 3:Oh my gosh, we can put it up on the middle ages. Oh, we do need to.
Speaker 4:All right, we're going to share that. Who is in it? Who are the actors in it?
Speaker 5:The Kristen Wiig, I think.
Speaker 4:Oh no.
Speaker 5:And the other girl, you know the girl with really dark hair.
Speaker 1:I know, don't know any of them. I know her too.
Speaker 5:She's beautiful big eyes. She does that ad with Seth.
Speaker 3:I mean, the only one that I've ever watched from SNL is the Snow Apocalypse. Like in what 14?
Speaker 4:Oh, when it was everything shut down in the interstate. The White Oskalod, oh my gosh.
Speaker 3:Oh, actually, that's how it's from there. Yes, oh, yes, I mean yeah.
Speaker 5:Yeah, I've never really liked what she was about SNL.
Speaker 4:But I'm just like that's a form of flattery. I mean, if they pick you out, you like go and do something. You have to be pretty high up for them to know that right.
Speaker 5:Yeah, like Celtic Woman really, it's kind of you know.
Speaker 4:No, it's a big thing.
Speaker 3:I actually think it's a lot bigger thing than you give a credit.
Speaker 2:I agree, I see people walking around with your face on their shirt.
Speaker 4:Yes, I know what is walking around with my face on their shirt. Can we just say that all the fans that are on the show are Lisa Kelly fans right now?
Speaker 3:For all the fans that are Lisa fans, they're going to be like excuse me, Lisa. We love you.
Speaker 5:We are the best. We are the best.
Speaker 3:We have your shirt, yeah exactly, they probably have your shirt.
Speaker 5:Yes, definitely have the shirt. Yes, I know they're great. They're great. They're such a passion and such a following for it.
Speaker 4:I love that though.
Speaker 5:It is. It's so nice, it really is. And we've been looking, we haven't had too many scary people, which has been nice, I love seeing the people that say you change your life.
Speaker 2:I know I love reading the comments.
Speaker 4:Same, and I love that there's men who listen, because there's like I don't want to hear what you guys have to talk about and you guys have to say, but it's just interesting, it is.
Speaker 5:No, it's an honor to do something like that and you don't think about it when you sing, or you do your job you do your job.
Speaker 1:It's your life, it's your job.
Speaker 5:So it's. It was always amazing. It was always really really nice. You know, I remember one time I can't remember the theater, but there was a kid that came to the show and he'd been severely abused as a child and he hadn't spoken at all and his parents had turned on. Pbs and he saw Celtic Woman and he started singing. Oh my God, it was so sad. And they brought him to the show.
Speaker 5:That was like those kind of stories and you don't, really, you never realize when you just, when you sing, you just you don't realize that you know something means so much to people. So, yes, it was wonderful.
Speaker 2:It was great.
Speaker 5:It was great to go home. I didn't get any Guinness, so I'm disgusted with that. But I didn't get to have any Guinness, but it's okay Next time.
Speaker 2:Next time Speaking of anniversaries. This is our 25th episode.
Speaker 3:Wait, what? What? 25th episode? That's amazing, Can we? Can we cheers to that?
Speaker 4:Cheers. I wish you guys had it at night.
Speaker 3:I won't. We know how, I don't know that kind of stuff I don't know.
Speaker 4:I don't feel like it's been anything. It doesn't feel like it's been that many.
Speaker 2:I guess we'll see the people who said that even our, their podcast, how they related to it, has helped them, so it's pretty cool.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I know, I think it's such a blessing 25 ladies who thought us.
Speaker 4:I know, I know Same, I'm like cool. I can't believe you guys haven't kicked me out, yet I'm going to take a sip to that we're like we're still here. Yay, oh my God Cheers.
Speaker 3:I'm glad we were here.
Speaker 5:I thought we'd have a hurricane to deal with tonight, but no, no hurricane.
Speaker 3:I think it's going to stay south of us, isn't it?
Speaker 4:Yes, mm-hmm.
Speaker 2:Speaking of 25 episodes, what would you guys say has been, like, your biggest learning point out of like? Well, obviously we're getting free therapy every week with this.
Speaker 3:So what do you think that you?
Speaker 2:guys have pulled from our podcast. I'm going to for me.
Speaker 3:Honestly, I think I've pulled something from each of them.
Speaker 3:And I know that sounds super cheesy, but it's the honest to God. I literally and my husband can attest to this I literally pull something that I feel like, oh my God, that was that right, there was just for me. Like I was supposed to hear that right now it resonates. Yeah, I really think there's been one episode where I didn't leave and I was like, oh my goodness, I'm so grateful I got to hear that, you know. So again, I'm being super, super honest. I don't know It'd be the same, I think the same thing,
Speaker 5:Everyone's been so different and there's been such a level of discovery from every guest that we had. And you know, I think, like I think tolerance has been the biggest thing that I've kind of taken away from people, from listening to people's stories and listening to how people have dealt with really awful things in their lives and resiliency.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 5:Yeah, it's just been. Yeah, how do you find grace?
Speaker 3:Oh no, for those, you know, like I mean like yeah, just to find such grace.
Speaker 4:We want to do good for things, like do good with things you know.
Speaker 3:They're always kind of like a current of you know trauma and tragedy and all of that stuff, but there's, like you were saying, there's such optimism, even though their stories can be different, and their appreciation and gratefulness to be doing it, and I think that that's just huge and amazing that the human spirit does that Like so yeah, so I don't really I don't know.
Speaker 2:My biggest thing has been probably why. That too, I mean always finding strength and like struggles. But I think you know, we talk about every time about fake book, and I talked about how you have done pictures with my kitchen looking clean and that there's a tons of mess to have to the side, and I think that that's one thing I really pull from is like it's okay to not be okay, you know like I'm not like I'm going through my mom having cancer right now and I don't usually tell people everything that's going on with me.
Speaker 2:but it's been nice to like say hey, you know, this is, this is what's going on, and to have friends checking in on you and all that Cause. Usually I like to look like everything's all together, but sometimes things just suck and it's not, and you know what.
Speaker 3:And it's okay to say it sucks.
Speaker 5:I think it's important to say it sucks, because I think somebody else reading it is going oh my gosh, that she has everything together. She's doing this, she's doing that. Everything is perfect in her life you know I think it's. I think it is really important to be honest with people and let people know the thing.
Speaker 4:Yeah, it makes you more real, and I think that I mean every guest that we've had has had something, something that's led them in that direction, right. So, psychologically, anything that we have or go through and emotionally leads us into a different path, and so I think being real helps you to connect with people more than just being like, oh, life is perfect.
Speaker 2:My house is perfect and I think we have grown the most being able to say, hey, like things aren't, things are okay today, and I think that that's really important to be able to do so.
Speaker 4:I'd say that's what I've, that to ask for help, sometimes to support yeah, and lean on each other Well that's the thing, like.
Speaker 3:I think, when you take, like, when you are really raw and honest in whatever you're going through, it's it it is nice to the other person because that person could be going through the same thing, but it's always like, oh, that person looks like they have everything together. I'm not going to say anything, oh my God. But then that makes them even feel worse about whatever they're going through. You can be honest and be like you know whatever you're going through. Or you know for me, when someone says, oh, your hair is beautiful, oh hey, it's a wig.
Speaker 3:You know, like it just is amazing, when people are more open, you're, you're helping yourself, but you're also helping someone else. Realize like hey you're not the only one out there, by yourself.
Speaker 4:But that's. It's interesting because there's a I'm doing this, the CEU thing, but it's like a. There's a big correlate between loneliness and suicidality, you know, because suicide has been really up lately and they've talked about that a lot since COVID. But you know, people feeling lonely and I think that if we feel like, oh, we have to be perfect, or we can't ask for help, or we can't reach out to friends, or we can't talk to people or hear other people's problems, then I think people shut down and go into that loneliness and then it just gets dark and then you know. So I think it's just right.
Speaker 3:You can't talk yourself out of it if you think you're the only person and that there's something wrong with you, because this is how you feel this is what you're going through, but everyone else around you has this beautiful, perfect life.
Speaker 2:Exactly Of course you go down a very dark spiral and.
Speaker 3:I do. I think that that's why it's good just to have like really raw honest, yeah, honest conversations. And they're saying whatever, it is just to be like hey you're not alone.
Speaker 4:Right, and I think that connection is what keeps people going. So I hope, if nothing else, people connect with us, or what we're saying, or if we're saying things that they haven't heard or they thought. But you know, never verbalize to anybody that it's just good to.
Speaker 2:Be able to have a conversation?
Speaker 4:Yeah, I don't know that people aren't alone.
Speaker 2:That's the main thing that's definitely my thing just be real. And then Not try to keep a friend if things aren't okay.
Speaker 3:No, why you this? Why you gotta? You gotta tribe around you, you know yeah, cuz things are not always okay.
Speaker 4:If they are, bring them to me. I want to see them on a city, unicorn.
Speaker 3:Everything is truly okay, then your job here is done, right, you're not, then you're not here, then you're you're it's over you know, and so if you're still here, it's not okay, oh, it's perfect.
Speaker 2:Well, I'm looking forward to our guests next week. Yes, speaking of just being someone to model after, because she is a nurse practitioner, which I like, since I'm an aspect of her, and but she also is someone who you know, middle-aged, but it's really taken her health by the horn and is a cross fitter, and also she started her own clothing line, which I think is super cool to you, I think that's amazing.
Speaker 5:She's a cross stitcher.
Speaker 3:No and close cross stitcher okay, I literally was like I have not heard that word since the 80s, no my mom did that all the time cross stitching.
Speaker 2:That was really clever, then, lisa I know she's a cross stitcher.
Speaker 4:I'm gonna say that you and your logo. She needs to be the logo queen.
Speaker 5:I missed out on marketing.
Speaker 2:You did.
Speaker 3:Yes, so freaking funny no she's so cool.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm looking forward to it. Well, let's cheers to having a tribe and. Yes, it's cheers to 25 you guys, 25 more tune into 26 when we talk with Michelle. Ralph Love it.
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